Saturday, June 1, 2013

What women want

I would never presume to answer this for everyone because women are as varied as snowflakes, but there are some constants. Here are a few things I've picked up over the years.

Women like to be pursued. Not stalker style, give me a break, but if there's a mutual attraction, there are subtle tells she'll employ to show a man she's receptive to his attention.

We like to be taken seriously. Let us have a stake in the conversation and be an attentive and engaged listener. Allow her to finish a sentence.

Women put a lot of thought into dressing for a man. Even seemingly innocuous details will be chosen with care, such as body wash, hair products, nail polish, and undergarments. He may never see it all, but he really ought to notice and compliment her on what he does notice on the outside. Appreciate her effort to please him.

Be thoughtful. It doesn't have to cost anything to be attentive and considerate. Do things for her. You can deal with dinner, fold the clothes in the baskets and put things away. Pick up the house or a toilet brush. Pitching in so she has more time to spend enjoying you can transform a simple guy into a golden god.  

Follow through when you say you're going to do something. That means calling when you say you will and turning up when you're expected.

Seduce her. The best sex has a long fuse. Look her in the eyes and hold it. You can say a lot without words. Touch. Brush your fingers across the inside of her wrist, take her hand, even for a moment. Don't make it sexual right from the get-go. Just remind her that you're there, waiting, wanting her. It's so easy to get her onto the same page. Think ahead to what you can do to make it likely she's going to say 'Yes," rather than, "I'm too tired." Now we're back to thoughtful. Isn't it funny how that works? 

--Tara Mills        

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1 comment:

  1. Good points, Tara, and much needed knowledge for a romance author. Thank you for the great post.
    -R.T. Wolfe