If you’d asked me a year ago my thoughts on writing and reading sex, I would have blushed. Yup. A full blown crimson beamer. It’s amazing how much can change in a year.
Back then, I’d have to reach for the Glenfiddich to help me get through it. Seriously. I was embarrassed to write sex. I worried about who was going to read it, dreaded the readers would think that’s what I was into.
Thankfully, after some great advice from a writerly friend and a good few saucy books later, I can laugh at myself. At the end of the day, it’s my characters getting down and dirty—not me. I shouldn’t be ashamed or embarrassed when writing sex or reading about it, and I don't think anyone else should.
Another thing I’ve learned after a couple of Hmmms from the CPs, you can’t really take a sex scene out of one story and dump another two characters into it. Why? Well what works for one couple probably won’t work for another.
Random scenes pop into my head often, and last week a BDSM type love scene wiggled its way into my thoughts. I wrote it down immediately, wondering who the characters were and where I could use it. Truth is, I can’t use it anywhere at the moment because it won’t fit with the stories I’m writing. It’s getting saved for a rainy day, or maybe to be used as inspiration for a future BDSM type story. I’m thrilled to say I’m not even a little bit fazed to write one now. Imagine what I’ll be up for writing next year. I can’t wait.
What about you, are there things that make you squirm in your seat when you read, or write?